The Truth About Self-Sabotage, Cellular Health & Fertility Success When You're Dealing with Infertility

"I sabotage everything for myself and I get in my own way. Even knowing that I can not stop it." 🧠 Topics Discussed How self-sabotage shows up in fertility journeys The connection between fear of judgment and subconscious patterns Why we suppress our truth without realizing it How childhood experiences program our nervous system to stay “safe” Fertility success as a byproduct of aligning with your authentic self The importance of subconscious empowerment and emotional processing How to break through ingrained patterns using Fertile Mind & DREAMS Affirmations to rewire fear-based beliefs Monica’s personal story of transformation from insecure to empowered Fertility not being something you fix—because you're not broken Motherhood as the ultimate mirror Why radical responsibility & inner work are non-negotiables for conscious motherhood "Maybe you were raised to believe your worth was tied to making others happy, so you learned to perform instead of just be." 🎧 Show Notes Hello beautiful! Monica here—and ooooh baby, are we getting into the thick of it this week. You ever feel like you’ve become the main villain in your own fertility story? Like you’re standing at the edge of breakthrough-ville, but your subconscious is like, “Nope. Let’s binge Netflix and spiral instead.” Yep, that’s self-sabotage, and she’s a sneaky little gremlin with a crown. In this episode, we’re diving into why you keep getting in your own way—even when you know better. Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy or broken. It’s because your subconscious is on full panic mode, terrified of being judged, rejected, or—gasp—seen. I unpack a real (and wildly relatable) conversation with a Finding Fertility community member who said, “Even when I know I’m doing it, I can’t stop sabotaging myself.” Cue the collective “ugh, SAME.” We talk about the fears that drive these patterns, how they tie into your childhood, and why they absolutely have everything to do with your fertility—even if they seem unrelated. And I’m not just dishing theory here. You’ll get practical tools, soul-hitting affirmations, and even some sass about why getting pregnant isn’t the endgame—becoming the conscious version of you is. So if you’ve ever filtered yourself in fear, stayed quiet to keep the peace, or talked yourself out of doing something your soul was screaming for—this one’s for you. Let’s crack open those protective shells, pour some love on your scared inner child, and rewire those crusty old stories. Because your body? She already knows what to do. Now it’s your job to stop getting in her way. "Your fertility isn’t broken. Your body innately knows what to do." ⏱ Timestamps 00:00 Welcome & intro01:01 Why self-sabotage is more common than we think02:30 Fear of judgment & the subconscious mind04:18 Suppressing our truth without realizing it05:13 Childhood programming & nervous system safety06:11 What this has to do with fertility07:39 Returning to your center—your “North Pole”08:35 The role of subconscious empowerment in change10:32 Tools to break self-sabotage: awareness & action12:27 Affirmations to shift your self-beliefs14:53 Self-sabotage is just a cry for safety15:23 Monica’s personal story of transformation16:47 Boosting cellular health = fertility magic18:39 Tease for next week’s episode: The Distress of Intuition19:38 Invitation for a breakthrough session Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-truth-about-self-sabotage-cellular-health-fertility-success-when-you-re-dealing-with-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica   Message me DREAMS to access your free Fertility Breakthrough Session: Email: [email protected] [not .com 🤣] Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok    🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discover