Why I’ve had a lifelong love affair with money

Why I’ve had a lifelong love affair with money. That may sound like a selfish admission, but I changed my thinking about money years ago.  My Dad was a pastor and I heard plenty about “the love of money.”  And while I respect his deep devotion, I think he misunderstood the message.  In today’s podcast I want to address these questions: How can I increase my sense of “deserving” success? What is your mindset about money? How can I address my “upper limit challenge?” How can I learn to serve from a full cup? “Money and success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.” Will Smith [Tweet This]   Summary: In this episode, Dan Miller challenges our mindset regarding money. We are taught to love it or hate it; but, is there a healthier view that we can maintain? Our mindset are often the result of the instilled values of our upbringing and this can work to our demise. Listen as Dan shares from his personal experiences, observations, and thoughts regarding church teachings about money and how family can at times, hold us back from achieving our greatest success. Sponsored By:    Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:57 – Preview of Today’s Show on Why I’ve had a lifelong love affair with money How can I increase my sense of “deserving” success? What is your mindset about money? How can I address my “upper limit challenge?” How can I learn to serve from a full cup? “Money and success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.” – Will Smith 02:12 – As a kid, Dan decided to have a lot of money and enjoy it 02:36 – Dan likes to personify money 02:56 – When Dan went through a rough time a few years ago, he always had $100 tucked in one of the compartments of his wallet 03:22 – Over the years, he gave out the $100, but replenished it every time 03:41 – “Broke is just a state of mind” 03:53 – Dan opens his arms to money 04:57 – Over the years, Dan bought a lot of repossessed cars 05:10 – Without exception, every car he bought had money (nickels, dimes, quarters) 05:35 – That gave Dan the impression of how the previous owner took care of their money 06:24 – What is your mindset about money? 06:28 – Stop complaining about money 06:55 – The only thing that works in the economy is allowing people to earn 08:08 – Dan mentions a Bible verse: “The love of money is a root to all kinds of evil” 09:16 – Do you believe that, “The safest thing to do is to not have any money [at all]?” 09:31 – The church teaches us to hate money 09:44 – In Dan’s experience, people with money are people who are gracious and giving 10:11 – Dan mentions about the church’s teachings and contradictory points on money 11:17 – “We get mixed messages from churches in terms of our relationship with money” 12:06 – How can I learn to serve from a full cup? People are taught that the Christian life means to put others first 13:12 – People who puts others first end up burned out and resentful that they’ve struggled so much with nothing left to give 14:03 – Most Christians’ way of serving is depleting themselves and ending up without resources 14:35 – “This is a distorted idea of service” 14:51 – Growing up as a pastor’s son, he was able to observe unhealthy teachings 15:23 – Dan elaborates on some examples of this 17:57 – Dan’s story that is somewhat similar to “Goldilocks and The 3 Bears” 18:47 – Share when your cup is full 19:55 – Stop the scarcity mindset 20:27 – Don’t deplete yourselves to help others 21:31 – Don’t stop when the cup is full – you want an abundance to help others 22:34 – How big is your cup? 24:06 – How can I address my “upper limit challenge?” 24:12 – The book, The Big Leap talks about the upper limit challenge 24:18 – Each of us have an inner thermostat setting 24:40 – Dan shares an example of, How can I increase my sense of “deserving” success? 25:09 – When sense of deserving doesn’t match the reality, people will find themselves back where they came from 26:03 – People self-sabotage until their reality matches their sense of deserving 26:26 – Other signs of the upper limit challenge is worry, blame, criticism, and not keeping promises 28:59 – The upper limit challenge negates people from identifying their sense of deserving 29:33 – When Dan was 17, he took some money from his savings account to visit Puerto Rico with a friend and his father thought it was stupid 29:57 – Dan shares more of his personal experiences with the upper limit challenge 31:51 – We come from family systems where successes are not really viewed positively 32:26 – This is one of the reasons why Dan talks so much about getting into masterminds 32:44 – Family systems become a hindrance for people to achieve success on their own 34:58 – Are you willing to find, develop, and fully use your strongest talents and passions? 35:10 – What is holding you back? 36:47 – Become a vessel where blessings can flow to other people 37:43 – Dan closes today’s podcast   3 Key Points: Being broke is a state of mind—therefore, keep an open mind to money. You will be able help a lot more than you could IF you take care of yourself and your resources, first. Your sense of deserving MUST match your reality.   Resources Mentioned: To ask Dan a question for the podcast – AskDan The new 48 Days Eagles site – This is the best place for moving your career forward Make money and serve as a 48 Days Seminar Presenter Go to com/48Days and get a free audio of Zig Ziglar’s See You at the Top! FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to https://www.freshbooks.com/48days Coaching with Excellence – May 25-26, August 31-Sept 1, 2017 Innovate – May 11-12, 2017 Social Media Marketing World – March 22-24th in San Diego Credits: Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives