Episode 220: Resisting Negativity

Today I'm going to talk about resisting negativity. I want to talk about preserving in you a spark. No matter how many times you get beaten down. That is never extinguished.  The Language of Letting Go “Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent-up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive behavior. Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we are struggling to maintain positive energy and balance.”  HALT: stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. And when it becomes more difficult for me to resist negativity, is when I'm hungry and when I'm tired. If I let my blood sugar get too low or I get too tired, resisting negativity from other people around me becomes more challenging. But negative energy is a powerful pull on us when we are struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It's so incredibly challenging because it's truly like being at a fork in the road and choosing, “No, I'm going to find a way to be positive or I'm going to give in to the negativity.” And sometimes it may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. I'm sure you've heard the phrase misery loves company, but we do not have to go.  We can choose to stay positive. We can choose to go. With good, orderly direction. Instead of going with the negativity, we can choose to find a way to stay positive. “Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away. It's okay to protect ourselves.” Stepping into an imaginary bag that no one else can see. And I think of it as being a protective layer just outside my skin. And I step into it and I bring it up past my ankles, my knees, my hips, my waist and my breasts and my shoulders and all the way up above my head. And then I seal it, I seal it, and I just tell myself, this is my protection. Here things stay positive, even though I may be in negative circumstances, and especially if I know that some things are unavoidable. You know, it's going to be contentious, but it doesn't mean you have to go there as well. Drop the rope, and find ways to be kind. I think what's really important to remember is that we cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. In fact, maybe we can make a little bit of a positive difference by being kind to them and maybe just listen. “We do not lead others into the light by stepping into the darkness with them.” That's what I mean by dropping the rope. If you think of a tug of war and that negative person is on one end and you're on the other. It's okay to drop the rope and let them carry it. “Today helped me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity even around those who I love. Help me to set boundaries if necessary. Help me to know that it's okay to take care of myself and to glow.”