153 - When Shame Becomes Our Identity: Toxic Shame & Scapegoat Abuse

When shame becomes one's identity... this is what we call toxic shame.Toxic shame is the deeply ingrained sense of be inherently flawed and unlovable and is the core wound of an adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families.Key Takeaways:Recognizing the difference between healthy shame and toxic shameThe internalization process that causes shame to go from being an emotion we experience to an identityWhat happens when our true self goes into hiding (shameful acting out vs shameless acting in)Scapegoat abuse and it's pervasive impact to the formation of selfHow to heal the shame that binds you through the externalization process (first and second order change)EP 90 - Family Scapegoat Abuse w/ Rebecca MandevilleBarb Nangle's Your Empowered Life 8-week transformational semi-private coaching program for women so you can be authentic with yourself and others.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chatSIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodMid-roll music source https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUVEFkjqiEE (I do not own the rights of song - for entertainment purposes only, no monetization)Our Sponsors:* Check out Sunbasket: https://sunbasket.com/ADULTCHILD* Get 15% off on your entire first order at happymammoth.com with code ADULTCHILD at checkout!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy