are you going to fit in or find your path? (ft. james hollis)

Those of us who struggle with chronic feelings of emptiness, persistent suicidal ideation and are recovering from various forms of abuse and neglect, find ourselves stuck in self-sabotaging patterns of behavior that keep us stuck in vicious life-denying cycles. Jungian analyst James Hollis’ new book is called "A Life of Meaning: Relocating Your Center of Spiritual Gravity." In it, he aims to tackle the biggest question many of us face: “what does all of this MEAN?” In this episode, James and I will discuss how you can “explore your inner architecture” by cultivating a vibrant inner life. By the end of our conversation, you will deeply understand what James means when he says, “you are what’s wanting expression through you, not what happened to you.” Our task isn’t goodness. It’s wholeness. TIME STAMPS: 00:00 – 4:00: Listener voicemail + intro04:14 – 10:21: What is Jungian psychology?10:19 – 13:29: How do Jungian and analytical psychology differ from shorter-term therapeutic modalities like CBT and DBT?13:29 – 17:30: Introducing Dr. James Hollis and his new book “A Life of Meaning”17:34 – 25:25: Why do we keep repeating the same self-sabotaging patterns our entire lives?25:20 – 27:56: The negative consequences of becoming stuck in childlike ways of acting and reacting27:56 – 29:38: How our self-esteem can become wounded in childhood29:38 – 38:42: How to cultivate a relationship with your inner self without losing your sanity38:42 – 50:25: The importance of leading an examined life50:25 – 56: 48: What happens when we cut ourselves off from our feelings56:48 – 01:03:28: Understanding and overcoming feelings of overwhelming “emotional neediness”01:03:38 – 01:29:34: How the BetterHelp controversy is changing the creator economy, shining a light on influencer responsibility, and raised concerns about the safety, reliability, and affordability of online therapy RESOURCES“A Life of Meaning: Relocating Your Center of Spiritual Gravity” by James HollisClick here to view other books by James HollisEnjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.