Coming Alive, Decoding Jealousy and Reclaiming Our Joy with Dr. Joli Hamilton

“Jealousy is the feeling that arises when we fear or anticipate the interruption of that love, or that bond. We need it, and we go into a survival mechanism when we fear this. So when we fear an interruption of the love bond, we can revert right back to our baby state. We can go right to the primal brain and fear for our very survival.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton Jealousy is a normal emotion to experience, but all too often we dismiss it or not talk about it, or we use it as this proof of love. That is going to change, because today on Brave By Design, my expert guest pulls back the curtain on jealousy so that we can come alive, reclaim our joy and stop letting this natural emotion hold us back in life.Dr. Joli Hamilton earned her doctoral degree at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Depth Psychology with a specialization in Jungian and Archetypal Studies. She is a professor of psychology and faculty at the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, where she teaches intimacy and communication skills, kink and BDSM for educators and therapists among other courses.She is a psychologist whose life has always revolved around teaching in non-traditional settings. Rather than working on what is “wrong” in a situation, Joli approaches every question and emotion with an attitude of curiosity, looking for the ways she can help you to find your own answers, providing practical, well-researched support for your personal exploration of sexual and relationship issues at every step of your process.This episode with Joli must be listened to, perhaps more than once, because the insights she has to provide on something we all experience as humans can quite literally be game-changing. As always, let Joli and I know your biggest takeaways from this episode, and I’ll see you back here next week!Connect with Joli: https://www.jolihamilton.com/ Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE wherever you listen to podcasts!Are you a service-based business who wants to build your brand and get booked solid? Learn how podcasting helped Laura do that over at: podcastbrandlab.comWhat You’ll Hear In This Episode: What is happening with the fear we have of being “too much” as women [5:47]How she says she truly experienced joy for the first time at the age of 33 [15:36]Jealousy defined, and how people often use it to control others [25:16]What tools are available to process the feelings that jealousy brings with it [30:29]Why jealousy is an essential emotion, and the joy that can actually come from having it [33:20]What “compersion” is, and the way you can use it to balance your emotions [38:51]Joli’s tips and strategies for helping a partner deal with jealousy [45:36] Additional Links & Resources:Joli’s LinkedIn, Instagram & Facebook   Her Book, Project Relationship: The Entrepreneur’s Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable LoveThe myth of the “too much” woman (Brave By Design Episode) Support the show