227: Leverage the Circle of Control Model

So this is the story of Sean and her high profile career as an IC at a high-profile law firm. She wanted so much to become a people manager but as with all people taking that step there were two major barriers standing in her way – one was actually getting herself into the role, and the second, more challenging barrier is learning how to be the great leader you envisioned yourself actually being. I’ll be the first to confess that eadership is so much easier on paper. We all know WHAT we need to do, but the actual doing of it, getting out of the weeds and giving away the LEGO – that is always the hardest part of being a new leader. Little did she know it – Sean helped me create the perfect model to master the skill she needed most, and now clients around the world, now including this podcast, will benefit from her brilliance and creativity.INTRO:Hey, thanks for tuning in to the Corporate Yogi podcast, this is your host Julie Zuzek. This pod is YOUR dedicated time for growth, developing practical tools to use with your team and in your other relationships and to learning deeply about who you are and what makes you tick! You are a brilliant and powerful being and I want you to invest more time reflecting on WHO are being, not just WHAT you are doing. Doing is awesome, but BEING, well that is where the magic happens and what makes you truly feel fulfilled. You’re going to love this episode on the Circle of Control model and learning about other models that are easy to use. So here’s a look at what you’re going to learn today1 – In the first segment I’ll introduce you to the powerful world of models2 – Then I share my favourite models that I use all the time3 – In the last segment I’ll share how to use the Circle of Control with your team and othersSo get out of your head, into your heart and let’s dive right in, shall we.SEGMENT 1The other day I was walking a client through a model and I realized that this is something I really want to do more of because she was really grasping it quickly and excited to use it with her team. Models are powerful and share an outside perspective to understand our current situation, which inspires us to take action in new ways. I want to use them more and knew that you’ll benefit not only from understanding HOW to use them more, but walking away with a couple really good ones in your pocket you can use right away. There are so many different types of models, some are really complex and have a number of components and some just contain 2 components and are really easy to use and teach. But let’s start by talking how they work. Models give us an outside perspective of looking at our current situation. So often when we’re looking at a difficult situation, we get in the habit of trying to approach it the same way we always have – it’s like that great Einstein quote, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” We have to bring in fresh information perspectives and ideas. To be honest this is a big part of what we do in coaching, we challenge people to look at their situation differently. This can be in real-time where we look at different options available us. It can also be done as a tool, in advance of the situation where we create a variety of different perspectives and call upon them on an as needed basis. Let me share a few personal examples. We’ll start by talking about using the real-time options available to us in the moment. I talked a few episodes ago about being given the archetype of the Dominatrix, and while it is primarily something we would use as an archetype, it really offers us a perspective of how to approach things in a different way. Examples of this would to be more confident, stronger, demanding and louder. Other examples of common archetypes we turn into perspectives to really open people minds are Motivational Speaker – which puts people into the mindset of being more...