329. How To Stop People-Pleasing At The Expense Of Your Own Dreams

For the majority of my life, I've just chosen to compromise my own dreams in the hopes of not disappointing other people. In doing so, I've actually missed the opportunities to make the full impact that I know I'm meant to make. Where do you see yourself holding back in order to make other people more comfortable? In this episode, I’m talking about the role that fear has played in my entrepreneurial journey and how I’m working to overcome those moments of self doubt. I share a quote from Glennon Doyle that has really impacted how I view my own potential and the duty that I have to pursue my wildest and boldest ideas. I also list a few journal prompt questions that I’ve been working with and get into how I’ve been approaching this thought work.    In this episode we talk about: Why so many of us hold back on what we really want  Thoughts, doubts, and questions that come up for me when I’m in an intense growth season Where I’ve seen myself compromise my vision  How I’m working on my people-pleasing tendencies  Why it’s actually selfish to not reach your full potential  Tapping into your subconscious mind and intuition  The discomfort of being stagnant    If you loved today’s episode, please share your favorite takeaways or your own systems and processes by screenshotting this episode and tagging us on Instagram!   Click HERE to get your tickets for the Powerhouse Women 2022 event!    Click HERE to check out the Powerhouse Women Behind The Success Stories!    Click HERE to text the word MENTOR to (602) 536-7829 for weekly business + mindset tips delivered straight to your phone!   Not part of the Girl Gang Community yet? Join HERE: Girl Gang Membership CONNECT WITH POWERHOUSE WOMEN Follow Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women Follow Lindsey: @llindseyschwartz Follow Hannah: @hannahmwells Visit the Powerhouse Women website: www.powerhousewomen.co Join the PW Community Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/powerhousewomencommunity EPISODE TIMELINE & DISCUSSION QUESTIONS ( 0:42 ) Welcome back to another episode of Powerhouse Women! Lindsey opens up the episode by asking listeners, “Who are you most afraid of disappointing if you were to go after your dreams?” ( 2:19 ) Lindsey says, “I think a big reason why we hold back and we don't go all in and share really boldly is a fear of what other people are going to think about it.” ( 5:40 ) Lindsey shares a quote from Glennon Doyle that really impacted her. “Every time you are given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” ( 8:16 ) Lindsey shares moments when she has chosen to disappoint herself instead of other people.  ( 10:39 ) Lindsey poses another reflective question for listeners. “If you knew that you could do anything and no one would be disappointed, if you could have anything and no one would be mad or jealous or triggered, what would you want?”  ( 11:26 ) Lindsey describes how this question has guided her in the past.  ( 16:13 ) Lindsey says, “The times when I avoid taking that step for far too long because I'm afraid of disappointing someone, that almost becomes more uncomfortable than taking the step.”  ( 17:49 ) Lindsey closes out the episode by saying, “When we do the bold thing, we actually change the world.”