S9 Ep. 4: He Refuses to Wear a Condom for Contraception, I Can’t Enjoy Breast Play After Children, and Why Do I Watch Lesbian Porn When I’m Straight?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I want to stop taking the Pill because it doesn’t agree with me. I’ve tried taking different types and I’m not suitable for a coil, so the obvious alternative is for my partner to wear condoms. I don’t mind condoms, but he can’t stand them and is making a huge deal of it. He says he’d rather not have sex than have sex using one. We now haven’t had sex for two months and neither of us are budging. I’ve been responsible for our contraception for the last 15 years, why can’t he see how selfish he’s being?2) Since nursing my first baby, I haven’t been able to experience my breasts as sexual. I’m now divorced and have a second child who is two years old. I’m seeing someone and want to get sexual, but I still have this block with my breasts. I really used to enjoy having breast play, now they feel like they have a different (utilitarian) job. I associate them with feeding my babies, and I don’t know how to switch back. How do I get past this? How do I feel sexual again?3) Tracey, I know you are porn-positive but I wanted to check if my porn viewing habits are normal. I’m a straight women and while I have nothing against women having sex with women, I have no desire to do it in real life. Yet, I almost exclusively watch lesbian porn. I asked one other female friend and she said that’s what she watches as well. Is this usual?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.