353: When things fall apart

In today’s episode, Betsy talks about when things feel like they are falling apart and how our instinctual response is to keep them together but sometimes, the greatest gifts come when we release, allow things to fall and explore the new things that can come in and fill it’s space. This is an episode that will help you feel differently about your struggles and hopefully give you new perspective on walking through to the good times ahead. Find The Collective here: www.Betsypake.com/collective Transcription: Okay. So I want you to know, I’ve recovered from all of the things that have been going on over the past like six, seven weeks with me. Now you might be tired of me talking about this, because I’m tired of talking about it. But I want to, I want to kind of tell you, now that I’m on the other side, what I’m thinking and what I kind of was always thinking about all the chaos that was going on. So if you’re new here, I had a lot of chaos going on. I was in an apartment, I bought a house. And then I got a flood in the apartment before I could move. And I ended up having a sleep on the couch a bunch of my stuff was ruined. We had an insurance claim. When I finally moved the sellers there movers like screwed up and so they weren’t out when they were supposed to be out. It took them an extra day, which wasn’t a big deal. But then we came in and there was like just a million little things that we just didn’t expect, which is normal with moving into a house. There’s always things that you don’t expect. But they were like alarming things like we got an $800 water bill for the first month. We weren’t living here. But we got this $800 water bill. So we were like what is the problem with us and water? We just had. I mean it was just a comedy of things going wrong and like the dishwasher broke, we had to get a new dishwasher like just things you don’t expect even though you expect to have things that you don’t expect. But it just felt like everything was falling apart and even In the middle of all that, I remember feeling very clear. And I remember feeling the the idea or the feeling that, like this is all leading somewhere, you know, this is all part of some bigger master plan that I’m just not privy to understanding. And, you know, this happens a lot with my clients, especially my one on one clients, it will happen to people in my programs, too. But after maybe like two or three weeks of doing deep work, they will come to me and say, like, everything’s falling apart. Like, why is this happening, this awful things happening, this big thing is happening, especially if they hadn’t been doing a lot of self work. In the past, it will seem like, oh, my gosh, everything. And I like to say, it’s going sideways, because I don’t want to think of it as like, it’s a disaster, or it’s blowing up, that’s just sideways, it’s just different than what I thought was gonna happen, right. And I think that when that happens, it is so disorienting for people, especially if they haven’t had an awareness. Like, obviously, things have gone sideways in their lives before, but they didn’t have like an awareness of it in the same way, and of how it connects in with maybe how they are being inside and what’s happening. And I always say to those people, this is normal, like this is normal. Imagine, if you bought an old, rundown crappy house with the intention of putting a new house there. You couldn’t just build the new house, you’d have to get rid of the old house, it would have to break apart the structure as you know, it would have to change in order to create room in s...