#561: Forgiving Yourself and Loving the Past You

Podcast #561 FORGIVING YOURSELF AND LOVING THE PAST YOUSelf-forgiveness is the start of freedom. If you're hard on yourself, and tend to beat yourself up for past mistakes or unhealthy habits, this episode is for you. Learning how to nurture a narrative of grace and compassion will open you to a powerful growth mindset and free you from the prison of a fixed and perfectionistic mindset. This episode will help you come to terms with your past self, and even find gratitude and appreciation for the mistakes, struggles and valleys you have walked through - even those that were self-inflicted - so that you can really maximize the person you have the ability to become in the present. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're covering:* The process of self-forgiveness and letting go of being hard on yourself* How to love the past you, even the painful, poor decision-making you* Letting go and letting it be a part of your story with acceptanceANNOUNCEMENT:SELF-DOUBT DETOX WEEK REGISTRATION IS OPEN!Sign up for your spot now >>www.trishblackwell.com/detoxTHE PROCESS OF SELF-FORGIVENESSAcknowledge that it is needed.Release the dialogue that "you're hard on yourself"Identify your primary emotionDecide if you want to keep the emotionTell yourself a compassionate storyCreate a healing or growth-based take-awayLOVING THE PAST Y0U:Identify your current story.How do you describe yourself in this narrative?Generate Compassion:How does it make sense that you struggled?How is it okay now?How was what you went through something you grew through?Express Love and Thanks:In what ways can you thank your past self?How is she still deeply loveable?Forgive and Respect:I forgive for you not knowing how to handle pain.I forgive you for not having the skills of emotional management or thought work.I forgive you for hurting yourself. It made sense at the time.I release beating myself up. I have outgrown beating myself up. HOW I KNOW THIS PROCESS:I spent a decade being ashamed of my past self. Why couldn't I pull it together? Why did I make such painful and fearful choices, and then convince myself that I would struggle forever?DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO NOWWhat do you regret the most? How did you miss out?Identify what you wish you had known then.Then double down and intentionally create that for your present and your future.This is what fires me up in my core soul.LETTING GO AND ACCEPTANCEClose the chapter.Remember that all stories need pain points - a hero story.Decide that it was ultimately for your good. Accept your story.Decide upon your future story. LISTENER OF THE EPISODEOH MY GOSH!! You are amazing. So I’ve listened to Joyce Meyer for years. Lately, I have felt like GOD is leading me to something bigger. And there you were! I feel like your podcast and college of confidence is going to be life changing for me. I am going to purchase that on payday. I have always been loud and full of personality. I want to master all the skills you teach. BIG PICTURE, I want to be a life Coach, Speaker and eventually write a book. I have been through so much mental and physical trauma starting from childhood. I want to help women get through all the things I’ve had to endure. Molestation, rape, physical abuse and mental abuse. I lost my first child 2 days after delivery. I wish I would have had someone help me through all this. I am still trying to free myself from all this baggage. Where can I start?Thank you for listening, Rena’ TranscriptEmailDownloadNew TabUnknown Speaker 0:01 You're listening to the confidence podcast, your favorite coaching podcast oozing with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dream...