Dan Harris and Oren Sofer

This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer aboutmindful communicationOur guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer. Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekendedition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline. He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer. Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialistin the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation. This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABCStudios in New York.  Our Sponsor this Week isCasper MattressVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code“feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableWhy mindfulness is useful in communicationThe10% Happier appLearning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve therelationshipHow our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/LoseparadigmHow we have a strong negative conditioning againstconfrontation that becomes hard-wiredHow mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor ouremotional reactions in conversationThe role of curiosity in communicationHow to become more curiousLearning to ask "What matters here" when listening toothersLearning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of justpretendingThe minor discomfort of being realHow to say things in a way that the other person can hear andunderstandLearning to hold our tongue in certain situationsHow being silent can lead to its own challengesThe importance of timing in choosing when to addressissuesContext sensitive communicationThe two criteria of good communication: does the other personunderstand and does it lead to connectionDan Harris Links10% Happier HomepageTwitterFacebookOren Sofer LinksHomepageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.