#15 - The Courage to Be Disliked

In this episode, I delve deep into the teachings of Alfred Adler, the Austrian medical doctor and psychotherapist renowned for founding the school of Individual Psychology. We explore the essence of self-acceptance, emphasizing the importance of embracing one's unique self, termed as 'this me'. The episode sheds light on the significance of placing unconditional confidence in our interpersonal relationships, steering clear of doubts and competition. Instead, the focus is on contribution, understanding one's value, and the pivotal role each one plays in the community.A highlight of the episode is the comparison between Adler and Freud, particularly their differing views on teleology and causality. While Freud leaned towards a deterministic approach, emphasizing how past events shape present behaviors, Adler championed a teleological perspective, focusing on future goals and purposes.The book, "The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness", serves as a foundation for this episode, offering a refreshing perspective on personal development. It underscores the importance of community, cooperation, and the audacity to live authentically. Key takeaways from the episode include the power of self-acceptance, the ability to change our narratives about the past, and the courage required to be truly happy. The episode also touches upon the challenges of interpersonal relationships, the essence of viewing relationships as horizontal rather than vertical, and the significance of seeing life as a series of moments.Tune in to discover how to harness the courage to be happy, to be yourself, and even to be disliked.* YoutTube: The Unreasonable Art of Living This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.howtounreasonable.com